Dropping the exhausting act of pretending everything is perfect takes an incredible amount of courage Xiaobian..🥹 Sometimes just letting a single honest, painful truth exist in the room is a massive relief..🫶🏻
Priyanshu, you found the exact place I wanted this piece to rest. What mattered to me was that nothing was magically solved after the truth was spoken—the loneliness stayed, and there was no perfect answer. The relief was simply that I no longer had to protect the relationship from the truth by pretending it wasn’t there.
I think sometimes the most exhausting part of loneliness is not the feeling itself, but carrying the extra weight of performing its absence. So yes—letting one painful sentence sit in the room, without rushing to fix it, can be its own kind of tenderness. Thank you for seeing that so gently. It means a lot to me that you keep meeting these pieces with this kind of care. 🫶
I'm glad Xiaobian and hiding your loneliness and constantly forcing yourself to look happy for other people is way more draining than the actual sadness itself and letting that truth just sit there takes so much courage..🤍
Exactly, Priyanshu. I think that’s the part people don’t always see—the performance can become heavier than the feeling itself. Sometimes the first relief isn’t making the sadness disappear, but finally not having to hide it. I’m really glad this piece gave us a place to meet around that. Thank you for staying with it so gently. 🫶
Yeah Xiaobian.. carrying a fake smile around absolutely drains your battery. the best kind of comfort is simply finding a safe space where you can be a total mess without any judgment and I'm so glad.. you are brilliant in writing..🫶🏻
this one felt uncomfortably real. you can have someone sitting right next to you, loving you, checking in on you, doing all the right things, and still feel completely alone. i really felt the part about pretending everything is fine because you’re scared that admitting you’re lonely will somehow make the relationship feel less real. sometimes you don’t need someone to fix the loneliness. you just need to finally be honest about it.
Ohmygod, this was such a great great read. Istg. By the ending of it I cried for them. I cried for the fact that how he didn’t rush her, how he didn’t ask her any questions and just did the most basic and simple thing. Because sometimes you don’t actually know the whys, why you feel this way even when the people close to you love you so much, care for you so much, be there. But still you kind of feel lonely, the loneliness never goes away. It remain as always.
Because just like you said being care for, loved is completely different than being seen. Someone can love you the most but you might still not feel seen and hence, that loneliness is still there in you.
Thank you so much for writing it. I love love every bit of it. 🫶🏼
Dropping the exhausting act of pretending everything is perfect takes an incredible amount of courage Xiaobian..🥹 Sometimes just letting a single honest, painful truth exist in the room is a massive relief..🫶🏻
Priyanshu, you found the exact place I wanted this piece to rest. What mattered to me was that nothing was magically solved after the truth was spoken—the loneliness stayed, and there was no perfect answer. The relief was simply that I no longer had to protect the relationship from the truth by pretending it wasn’t there.
I think sometimes the most exhausting part of loneliness is not the feeling itself, but carrying the extra weight of performing its absence. So yes—letting one painful sentence sit in the room, without rushing to fix it, can be its own kind of tenderness. Thank you for seeing that so gently. It means a lot to me that you keep meeting these pieces with this kind of care. 🫶
I'm glad Xiaobian and hiding your loneliness and constantly forcing yourself to look happy for other people is way more draining than the actual sadness itself and letting that truth just sit there takes so much courage..🤍
Exactly, Priyanshu. I think that’s the part people don’t always see—the performance can become heavier than the feeling itself. Sometimes the first relief isn’t making the sadness disappear, but finally not having to hide it. I’m really glad this piece gave us a place to meet around that. Thank you for staying with it so gently. 🫶
Yeah Xiaobian.. carrying a fake smile around absolutely drains your battery. the best kind of comfort is simply finding a safe space where you can be a total mess without any judgment and I'm so glad.. you are brilliant in writing..🫶🏻
Aww, thank you, Priyanshu. 🤍 That genuinely means a lot coming from you.
And I completely agree — sometimes the safest place isn’t where someone fixes us, but where we don’t have to tidy ourselves up before being seen. 🫶
this one felt uncomfortably real. you can have someone sitting right next to you, loving you, checking in on you, doing all the right things, and still feel completely alone. i really felt the part about pretending everything is fine because you’re scared that admitting you’re lonely will somehow make the relationship feel less real. sometimes you don’t need someone to fix the loneliness. you just need to finally be honest about it.
Ohmygod, this was such a great great read. Istg. By the ending of it I cried for them. I cried for the fact that how he didn’t rush her, how he didn’t ask her any questions and just did the most basic and simple thing. Because sometimes you don’t actually know the whys, why you feel this way even when the people close to you love you so much, care for you so much, be there. But still you kind of feel lonely, the loneliness never goes away. It remain as always.
Because just like you said being care for, loved is completely different than being seen. Someone can love you the most but you might still not feel seen and hence, that loneliness is still there in you.
Thank you so much for writing it. I love love every bit of it. 🫶🏼